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Happy Black Girl Day: A Review of “Running: AMOK”, A Musical Stage Play by Liberated Muse Productions

Last night, thanks to the generosity of my good friends Liz and Jamal, I had the opportunity to attend a performance of “Running: AMOK”, a musical stage play by Liberated Muse Productions.

 

The performance was held at The Corner Store Gallery, an art space on Capitol Hill here in DC. The play was written, directed and produced by Khadijah Ali-Coleman, a Black woman playwright, author and lyricist located in the DC area. Khadijah is co-founder of Liberated Muse Productions and the Capitol Hip-Hop Soul Festival. I can say with all honesty that going in with absolutely no prior knowledge of what this play was about I was absolutely blown away. This play tackles what I’ve always considered to be one the most controversial topics for Black women: when we admit that motherhood is hard and damn near drives us over the edge.

The cast includes :

  • Quiniece as “LaChelle”
  • Rayona L. Young (my VERY good girlfriend)  as “Nina”
  • Nia Simmons as “Lyn” (Nina’s Cousin/Business Manager)
  • Deja Belle as “Camille”
  • Lyn Artope as “Benny” (Camille’s mom)
  • Colette Williams as “Mama Belle”

 

“Running: AMOK” tells the story of three creative women who find themselves pregnant in the middle of their careers and how each one deals with her new reality. The play opens with each of the women telling the people closest to them about their pregnancies. One woman, LaChelle, a singer and single, is ecstatic about her pending motherhood and wastes no time telling all her friends and family the good news. Camille, an author living at home with her parents, seems ambivalent but confident, much to her mother, Benny’s chagrin. Nina, a high-profile fashion designer, tells her cousin/manager Lyn that she plans on getting an abortion, but doesn’t go through with it.

The three women eventually meet in the waiting room of a psychiatrist, nine months post-partum. Motherhood is nothing what any of them imagined. LaChelle’s boyfriend left her right before her baby was  born and she lost her singing gig, Camille’s writing contracts are drying up and Nina has no time to devout to her art, she’s overwhelmed by the demands of mothering AND her husband. Each of these women are their own overheated pots about to boil over and explode. The wise Mama Belle, an eccentric mother of 3 grown children, grandmother of one, singer, wife and business owner shows up and drops pearls of wisdom on the new moms in that waiting room that none of them expected to receive.

What impressed me the most about this play is each of these characters are like women all of us know and they actually talk about the realities of being a mother and still wanting to “be” at the same time. Too often, women are told that they must become some “Martyr of Motherhood” and die in spirit in order to raise a child successfully. We’re shamed by our family and community when we admit to not taking well to motherhood right away or even when we hit a wall and become frustrated and confused by our children. “Running: AMOK” adresses these points and more. As a mother and creative woman, I could relate to so much of what each of the characters was going through. It felt good to finally have these things said out in the open. And I must say that I was so glad that “Running: AMOK” showed these Black women seeking THERAPY!! Chasing wellness and happiness!

The play was funny, poignant, and emotional. It is extremely well-written and you definitely hear Khadijah telling her own very personal story as a mom and creative woman through the dialogue.  The songs were great and the actors/singers were all amazing, across the board. I can definitely see this small community production growing and going above and beyond what anybody in the audience could realize. I am so glad I was able to attend such an awesome performance.

Liz, me & our friend Rayona, who played "Nina" in the play "Running: AMOK"

 

If you are in the DC Metro Area over the next few days, please make your way to a performance of Running: AMOK. Click here for more information on this play and how to purchase tickets.

 

 

~pbg

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Chimps and Sheep and Llamas, Oh My!: Female vs. Woman

The other day, I got a question from a very nice young man that follows my extra secretive, G-14 classified microblog over on Tumblr:

“Hey Auntie, I have a question that I’ve been thinking about for a while. It stems from something I read a while back. I’m admitting my ignorance on this because I don’t understand this fully, but why is the term “Female” not good to use? I’ve kinda refrained from using it but I don’t know why.”

First of all, this question was refreshing because this young man is a.) admitting that he just doesn’t know and not assuming that what he thinks is OK for women should just be OK and b.) he’s deferring to a woman on a woman’s issue.

The “female v. woman” debate is one that I run into at least once a week. I’m either attempting explain the difference to a man who isn’t as humble and open as the young man who asked the question above and has decided that I as a woman just needs to accept what he says about how I should feel about the issue or commiserating with other women who don’t like being called “female”.

What I find more disturbingly incredible than anything is the fact that so many men want to ARGUE the point of what a woman should be called, WITH OTHER WOMEN.  If a woman asks to be referred to as a “woman” and not “a female”, then why argue that? Why not just refer to her as such? While I can totally see why it is very important to a woman to be referred to as a woman, I can’t see why it’s so important for a man NOT to refer to a woman as “woman”. Or is it just the male ego at play?

There are males and females in just about every species of animal in nature. The Animal Kingdom is split up like this so we can procreate and propagate our respective species. As I was thinking about this topic of “female v. woman”, I became curious about what OTHER female animals are called and this is what I was able to discover:

A female chimpanzee is called an "empress".

 

A female sheep is called a "ewe".

A female llama is called a "hembra".

And a female cat is a “queen”, a female dog is a “bitch” and a female squid is a “hen”. But there are human males who have a problem with calling a human female something as simple as “woman”. *long, heavy sigh*

But as for this young man’s question, here’s my answer and I hope this clears up the confusion and can end the debate. This is just my opinion, but I know that it is shared by many other women and even some men:

“Female” is a descriptor. It’s not what I am. It describes my personage, just like “short” and “black”. But what I actually am is a woman. A female human being. “Female” can be applied to any animal. My cat is “female”, but we are not the same. My mother’s dog is “female” and I love her, but we aren’t the same either. Calling me  a“female” minimizes my humanity or even negates it completely in the minds of people (usually men) who need to recognize it more than anything when dealing with me. Call me a woman and respect my humanity. I want you to remember that I am a human just like you are every time we encounter each other. That’s important to me. Do not dismiss the fact that I am human just like you by categorizing me along with every other animal on the planet. Dehumanizing a person is the first thing someone does in attempts to subjugate and abuse them. (see, slavery).

Some people say it doesn’t matter if a woman is called “woman” or “female”, but I think that it does. I think it matters a lot in the way people think and how they treat one another. Words are powerful and can shape the way an entire race of people think and behave. #propaganda When we insist on referring to one another in terms of humanity, it causes us to recognize and respect that humanity and treat each other like real people. And yes, women are real people too.

 

~pbg

 

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Checking In With My Inner Moon

..by honouring the demands of our bleeding, our blood gives us something in return. The crazed bitch from irritation hell recedes. In her place arises a side of ourselves with whom we may not-at first- be comfortable. She is a vulnerable, highly perceptive genius who can ponder a given issue and take her world by storm. When we’re quiet and bleeding, we stumble upon solutions to dilemmas that’ve been bugging us all month. Inspiration hits and moments of epiphany rumba ‘cross de tundra of our senses. In this mode of existence one does not feel antipathy towards a bodily ritual that so profoundly and reinforces our cuntpower. ”
— Inga Muscio (Cunt: A Declaration of Independence)


One of the things I learned as a result of the phenomenal success of The Red Tent Symposium For Women that was held last weekend is the importance of taking my “special time of the month” to check in with myself. I‘ve lived for the past twenty-six years dreading my 4-5 days of menstruation. Whining and crying, complaining and moping. Completely tossing aside this time when I naturally slow down to inflect, move and speak deliberately and sort through the rigamarole of the past 28 days.

We get so busy being our messy human selves that we forget how awesomely made we are. I never realized that women are lucky to have been designed with something that automatically reminds us of our humanity, reminds of us that we aren’t robots or superwomen and makes us stop and take notice of ourselves. Our Periods! All too often we curse it (hell, we’ve managed to actually name it “The Curse”) and ignore this opportunity to get our proverbial shyt together. It’s not a curse! It’s a special blessing of being a woman! We usually don’t stop to think about ourselves until it’s too late, right? Right.

I’ve decided that I’m going to do my (lunar) monthly check-ins and share it here on my blog. Do I care if all of the blogosphere knows I’m menstruating? Hell no. I’m a 37 year-old woman with a fully function uterus on the inside of me. This is not an unusual occurrence. Not only is menstruation not unusual for me, from now and forever more it will be the time when I reconvene with myself for the sake of all my sanity and well-being:

“Checking In With My Inner Moon”

This picture is gorgeous.

Having studied human development quite a bit back in the say, I know that our major areas of development are social, emotional, cognitive and physical. I’ll break down my self-evaluation based on those four basic categories, just because it makes the most sense to me. So, since this is Day One for me, let me get into it:

Social: I struggled quite a bit in the last month with getting along with my friends. I would get all the way up into my feelings, be upset and let all that spill out into the atmosphere, in essence punishing folks for caring enough about me to even include me in the happenings. Basically being a Reckless Goddess.  I got checked by the people who love me and challenged to do better. I think that I have. At least I’m trying!

Emotional: I’m just a woman in therapy. I’m handling my issues and even had a tremendous breakthrough last week. It took a lot out of me but I’ll just keep going. I’ve only had one weepy day and that is indeed a good thing. Generally, I’ve felt confident and empowered. Very light and receptive.

Cognitive: I haven’t been reading as much as I need to be doing. I think if I limited my TV and Internet time (eeek!), I could actually concentrate more on reading AND writing. I could concentrate on EVERYTHING more and be more effective in all my endeavors.  Hey, it worked for my son. I’m sure it would work for me.

Physical: GAH! I don’t exercise enough. That’s just the truth. If I don’t get myself up and out of this house and just walk around this neighborhood, I’m gonna pass away right on this damn sofa. It will help with my mood and my hypertension. I’ve known all t his for the longest time, so what the hell am I doing?

 

Ladies who menstruate: I challenge you to take your Special Time and check-in with yourself. I’m convinced this is why we slow down and we need to take advantage of it. We need to take care of ourselves so we can reach our fullest potential. Write, pray, light candles, pull cards or perform whatever rituals get your mind right and keep it real with yourself . I think it will give you the proper perspective to stay on the path to being the best you can be. That’s what I look forward to gaining from this monthly exercise and I hope that you can gain the same.

 

~pbg

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Beauty Alert: China Glaze Introduces Six Sizzling Shimmers and Cremes

From the desk of the lovely Irene Chao at China Glaze to the Dirty Pretty Thangs Inbox:

 

ESCAPE THIS SUMMER WITH HIGH SHINE AND BRIGHT SHIMMER

China Glaze Introduces Six Sizzling Shimmers and Cremes

Los Angeles, CA – (October 2010): Take an exotic island escape with China Glaze this summer with a tropical, shimmering rainbow of brilliant bright colors! Mix and match these hot hues to add a candy-like pop to that summer manicure and pedicure. Colors in the collection include:

· Papaya Punch: Crème based vivid orange.
· 108 Degrees: Flirtatious berry pink with specks of micro glitter.
· Senorita Bonita: Passionate purple shimmer with pink micro glitter.
· Blue Iguana: Bold and daring sparkly blue.
· Cha Cha Cha: Vivacious shimmer green.
· Electric Pineapple: High intensity crème based lime green.

Escape this summer to a far away place with China Glaze. Vacation in color!

The China Glaze Island Escape collection will be available as open stock colors, 6 piece box collection, 6 piece counter display, 12 piece counter display and 36 piece rack.

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China Glaze nail lacquers are available through salons and professional beauty supply stores nationwide. For more information, visit: www.chinaglaze.com or follow China Glaze on Twitter: http://twitter.com/ChinaGlaze

China Glaze is a division of American International Industries.

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For nearly 40 years, AII has been the leading manufacturer and worldwide distributor of innovative, quality beauty and skin care products for men and women. Our product lines include Ardell, Andrea, Body Drench, Bye Bye Blemish, Checi, China Glaze, Clean + Easy, Clubman/Pinaud, Duo, European Secrets, EzFlow, Fright Night, Gena, GiGi, Gypsy Lash, IBD, Jeris-Lustray, No Tweeze/Micro Tweeze, ‘N Rage, Prolinc, RAW, Seche, SuperNail, Surgi-Care, Waterworks, Winning Nails, Woltra, Woody’s, and Youthair. For more information, visit our website: www.aiibeauty.com.

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