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Windshield Spam Holleration: “This Wayne”

For real, all the weird shyt in the world happens to me and my friends. Check this out:

My Very Good Girlfriend Kellie came outside yesterday to find this on her car:

"CALL ME. THIS WAYNE. XXX-XXX-XXXX"

 

Apparently, there is a guy named “Wayne” that has noticed her and thinks that leaving real-life spam on her windshield is the best way to initiate contact with a lovely young woman. Dedicated Readers, may I ask you a question?

What the F*CK part of the game is this???

I know it’s hard out here in these dating/relationship streets…BELIEVE ME, I KNOW…but is this truly what men are resorting to nowadays? Are dudes really not against writing notes IN ALL CAPS on the inside of cereal boxes, totally disregarding subject-verb agreement and putting them on ladies’ cars? I complain A LOT about men being either slow and awkward or doing too much when it comes to approach and execution in their pursuit of women, but this right here has slow-roasted my soul. I simply cannot. “Wayne” is trippin’, ya’ll. Don’t EVER do this mess. It’s ineffective, cowardly and down-right creepy. This will never, ever get you the girl/guy of your dreams. Never.

This holleration right here would get you better results than window spam:

I offered to call ol’ boy for Kellie, but she responded with an emphatic “HELL NAWL!” She’s right, we shouldn’t even call Wayne out of curiosity or for the sake of a cheap joke. That right there is “prison handwriting”. Don’t even ask me how I know. I just know.

What’s the weirdest holleration you’ve experienced thus far? Anything extra funny or exceedingly creepy?

 

 

~pbg

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Compassion: Love Anyway

I was up late last night talking to my very good girlfriend Kellie via G-Chat. The conversation went from her missing her mama, who passed away 364 days ago, to the death yesterday of Amy Winehouse. These subjects and the fact that we were talking about them at 2:30am relate intimately in our hearts and minds. We were ranting and lamenting the lack of compassion we’ve noticed among the people in our various online communities. Social Media at its worst, as it seems. Kellie was having a conversation with a guy she grew up with in Cleveland via Facebook. He said that he didn’t feel sorry for Amy Winehouse because “she had money and could have gotten better but she made a mockery of rehab.”

Full stop.

Really? Money cures addiction now?

His supposition was also that her “wealth” gave her access to “The Betty Ford Center” and that’s something that the average addict can’t get. Kellie said she saw comments like this spread far and wide throughout her Twitter stream and Facebook news feed and it was simply disgusting to her. I agree. I chose to abstain from both just to avoid the mass display of dispassion amongst my fellow human beings. It’s something I just could not face in the wake of such a tragic death and so close to the anniversary of Kellie losing her mama.

Kellie and I are both adult children of parents who have struggled with the disease of addiction. We know that addiction is a disease that is no respecter of persons or their wealth, fame, material trappings or lack thereof. That disease reaches across race, gender, class, sexual orientation, religious affiliation or any other “differences” that have been cooked up to keep people divided and comfortable with killing, abusing and ignoring each other. It reaches with a grip stronger than anything most human beings have ever experienced. Addiction chokes the life out of individuals, families and communities. A suffocating beast. Lack of compassion on world/national/local/individual levels gives this beast even more strength. Please understand this as truth.

I had to advise Kellie to bow out of that conversation because it seemed like an exercise in futility. This guy’s need to judge Ms.Winehouse’s behavior in the midst of her addiction seemed like it was more important than understanding exactly what addiction is and remembering that above all else, she was a human being first.

“A major component of compassion is acknowledging that just because an issue doesn’t personally affect you doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist”. ~My good friend Nova.

After that conversation with Kellie last night, I woke up thinking about this quote from Nova. I wonder when the great need to feel superior to others began to overshadow the simplicity of compassion. There are physical and/or psychological battles that others live through or die from that we may or may not understand, but despite our lack of understanding, those battles still exist. They are very real. I’ve never smoked crack or abused alcohol or nicotine, but I know there are demons in this world that will chase a person down that road of escapism. I understand that there are just things in this world that are bigger than we are. Both good and bad. But, I love anyway.

Love, anyway. Despite and just because. Love anyway.

Peace to those who are battling addiction and are counting seconds/hours/days clean and sober. Peace to those who fought valiantly but didn’t make it through. Peace to those who never knew how to fight. Peace to all those standing on the sidelines, touched exponentially. 

 

~pbg

 

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Naturalista Meet-Up: My Very First Visit To The Oyin Handmade Store

Last Saturday, my good friend and brand new Naturalista Lauren of Life of A Libra and I went up the road a ways to the city of Baltimore for a Natural Hair Meet-Up. The meet-up was organized by some ladies in Maryland that are members of the Baltimore Natural Hair Meet-Up group and the CurlyNikki Forums. I’m not a member of either (well, I’m on the CurlyNikki forums now, as ThePBG), but I found out the meet-up from my friend Yonna. The meet-up was held at the Oyin Handmade store in Baltimore. Yonna works there and invited me to come. I jumped at the chance to visit the Oyin store! I was so excited that I got to go and check out the place where some of my favorite natural hair products are thought up and made!

I’ve been a fan of the Oyin Handmade products since before I took my locs down. The products are all natural and made with love. What’s not to like?? I also feel great about supporting a Black family business with my few lil’ dollars, especially since I know that products are top-notch. In addition to picking up a few of my staple products, I got to meet a lot of beautiful Naturalistas and talk hair all afternoon. It was a lovely gathering! Here are a few pics:

Yonna was a great saleswoman/hostess.

Naturalistas sampling products & talking about them.

Checking out more of the Oyin Handmade goodness.

Beautiful Natualistas showing Oyin Handmade products some love.

Product on the shelves at Oyin. Two of my favorites! Burnt Sugar Pomade and Shine n' Define!

Here I am with Alex of www.thegoodhairblog.com. She's such a beauty.

All giddy with my bag of Oyin Handmade goodies.

Group pic! All gorgeous Naturalistas!

The Oyin Handmade Shop is located at 2103 N.Charles Street, Baltimore, MD. It's open on Saturdays only, from 12pm-7pm

We had a blast and I’m so glad I went. Special thanks to Lauren for coming and letting me ride up to Baltimore with her and to the ladies of the CurlyNikki Forums for putting together such a great event. All those beautiful ladies with gorgeous natural hair. It was certainly a day to remember.

Just in case you’re wondering what products I bought: I got the Shine n’ Define, a bottle of Hair Dew, some Honey Water hydrating body mist, a very cool journal for me and a “I Love My Hair” t-shirt for my daughter.

 

Do you use any of the Oyin Handmade products? If so, which ones are your favorites? If not, check them out and pick up a sample pack. I guarantee there will be something that you love.

 

~pbg

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Happy Black Girl Day: A Review of “Running: AMOK”, A Musical Stage Play by Liberated Muse Productions

Last night, thanks to the generosity of my good friends Liz and Jamal, I had the opportunity to attend a performance of “Running: AMOK”, a musical stage play by Liberated Muse Productions.

 

The performance was held at The Corner Store Gallery, an art space on Capitol Hill here in DC. The play was written, directed and produced by Khadijah Ali-Coleman, a Black woman playwright, author and lyricist located in the DC area. Khadijah is co-founder of Liberated Muse Productions and the Capitol Hip-Hop Soul Festival. I can say with all honesty that going in with absolutely no prior knowledge of what this play was about I was absolutely blown away. This play tackles what I’ve always considered to be one the most controversial topics for Black women: when we admit that motherhood is hard and damn near drives us over the edge.

The cast includes :

  • Quiniece as “LaChelle”
  • Rayona L. Young (my VERY good girlfriend)  as “Nina”
  • Nia Simmons as “Lyn” (Nina’s Cousin/Business Manager)
  • Deja Belle as “Camille”
  • Lyn Artope as “Benny” (Camille’s mom)
  • Colette Williams as “Mama Belle”

 

“Running: AMOK” tells the story of three creative women who find themselves pregnant in the middle of their careers and how each one deals with her new reality. The play opens with each of the women telling the people closest to them about their pregnancies. One woman, LaChelle, a singer and single, is ecstatic about her pending motherhood and wastes no time telling all her friends and family the good news. Camille, an author living at home with her parents, seems ambivalent but confident, much to her mother, Benny’s chagrin. Nina, a high-profile fashion designer, tells her cousin/manager Lyn that she plans on getting an abortion, but doesn’t go through with it.

The three women eventually meet in the waiting room of a psychiatrist, nine months post-partum. Motherhood is nothing what any of them imagined. LaChelle’s boyfriend left her right before her baby was  born and she lost her singing gig, Camille’s writing contracts are drying up and Nina has no time to devout to her art, she’s overwhelmed by the demands of mothering AND her husband. Each of these women are their own overheated pots about to boil over and explode. The wise Mama Belle, an eccentric mother of 3 grown children, grandmother of one, singer, wife and business owner shows up and drops pearls of wisdom on the new moms in that waiting room that none of them expected to receive.

What impressed me the most about this play is each of these characters are like women all of us know and they actually talk about the realities of being a mother and still wanting to “be” at the same time. Too often, women are told that they must become some “Martyr of Motherhood” and die in spirit in order to raise a child successfully. We’re shamed by our family and community when we admit to not taking well to motherhood right away or even when we hit a wall and become frustrated and confused by our children. “Running: AMOK” adresses these points and more. As a mother and creative woman, I could relate to so much of what each of the characters was going through. It felt good to finally have these things said out in the open. And I must say that I was so glad that “Running: AMOK” showed these Black women seeking THERAPY!! Chasing wellness and happiness!

The play was funny, poignant, and emotional. It is extremely well-written and you definitely hear Khadijah telling her own very personal story as a mom and creative woman through the dialogue.  The songs were great and the actors/singers were all amazing, across the board. I can definitely see this small community production growing and going above and beyond what anybody in the audience could realize. I am so glad I was able to attend such an awesome performance.

Liz, me & our friend Rayona, who played "Nina" in the play "Running: AMOK"

 

If you are in the DC Metro Area over the next few days, please make your way to a performance of Running: AMOK. Click here for more information on this play and how to purchase tickets.

 

 

~pbg

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